I am a qualified Psychotherapist & Supervisor (MA in Psychotherapy & Post Grad Dipl Clinical Supervision) and currently work in private practice in Dublin City-Centre.
I provide Counselling and Psychotherapy for birth mothers & fathers, adopted adults and adoptive parents.
I worked as a volunteer counsellor for Barnardos Post Adoption Service seeing adopted adults for individual counselling sessions. I also assisted the project leader in parent training and support groups for adult adoptees. More recently I completed my MSc dissertation on adoption: Developing a sense of self as an adopted person. In addition, my work in primary schools includes engaging with adoptive and foster families around school and family issues. Overall, I have extensive experience in working with questions related to adoption, domestic adoption and inter-country adoption.
Common themes for adopted adults might be conflicting thoughts and feelings around being adopted, questions about birth parents and ethnicity, search for birth family members, reunion with family members, and post-reunion experiences.
The bonding process for the birth mother, who carried the baby inside her during pregnancy and experienced the miracle of birth with this baby, had not been previously acknowledged in society at large or by the professionals working in adoption and mental health.
Adoption relinquishment involves a grief process not unlike other types of grief such as death or separation. Sometimes the secrecy, shame, guilt, self-blame, feelings of selfishness and loss leave scars on birth mothers' self-esteem. Birth parents may struggle as they re-evaluate their decisions later in life. Birth parents might feel incapable of making decisions, feel unlovable, or feel unable to handle having another child. At such moments, they need to realize that they made the decision at a particular time and place, perhaps as a vulnerable teenager without adult skills or resources. Restoring self-esteem is an ongoing process.
In parenting support sessions parents can talk and think about specific concerns related to adoption with an experienced professional. Emerging themes might be ‘How do I speak to my child about adoption?’, ‘When do I tell my child that he is adopted?’, ‘Are some of his behaviours related to adoption? If so what can I do to help him?’, ‘What if my child wants to find his birthmother/birthfather?’
I believe that thinking & talking about the concerns you have with a trained psychotherapist can help you to start talking and thinking about emotions, worries and concerns related to the adoption, tracing and reunion with a trained professional. It can help you to improve the the quality, contentment and satisfaction of your life to emerge.
Psychotherapy sessions last 50 minutes. I charge Euro 70 per session (sliding scale, student rates).
Counselling & Psychotherapy is governed by a strict professional code of ethics, and is respectful of all cultures, orientations and beliefs.
For further information please contact Nessa Muller:
Mobile: 087 924 19 36
Email: [email protected]